15.09.2020

Advice for guardians

The older the child, the more embarrassed they may feel about not being able to control their physiological functions. Regardless of the circumstances, parents play an important part in this situation. They should try to keep their child from isolating themselves because of their condition and relieve them of any guilt. 

The atmosphere created by the parents will have an impact on the child’s future. 

These symptoms may be observed in children who wet themselves:

• low self-esteem
• contempt for one’s body
• fear that someone might find out
• fear of rejection and humiliation
• lack of self-acceptance
• difficulties at learning
• terrors, neurosis
• withdrawal from the environment or violent behaviour
• avoiding contact with peers
• reluctance to go out.

It is necessary to satisfy the child’s need for support and acceptance.

What can you do to help?

At home

• Remain calm and provide support – children can sense an adult’s mood and can easily pick up on these emotions, both good and bad.
• Don’t make your child feel guilty – they do not wet themselves purposefully.
• Never make fun of your child or use their condition against them.
• Be sincere – explain that you understand their feelings and that you will be able to get through it together.
• Think positively and help your child do the same – this is important for motivational treatment.
• Make sure your child drinks enough fluids – cutting down on drinking will not improve their state and can be a threat to their health.
• Remind your child to void their bladder and make sure they visit the toilet before going to bed.
• Praise your child for each day and night they manage to stay dry
• Don’t punish your child if they wet the bed. Have an extra set of bedclothes and pajamas at hand in case it happens.
• Protect the bed from wetness – get a special barrier sheet or a hygienic bed underpad.
• Provide your child with absorbent products – it will make them feel more comfortable and secure.

Outside

• If you are taking your child to the doctor, make sure they know what to expect, what questions they might be asked, and what the purpose of the visit is. Explain to your child that they don’t have to be ashamed in front of the doctor; they are there to help.
• Encourage your child to play with their peers. Help them feel secure with the use of disposable underwear.
• If the child is a bit older, show a picture of the urinary system and explain how it works. You can ask a doctor or nurse for help. Your child might appreciate your effort to show them what is going on with their body.
• If your child attends school, make sure their teacher knows about their problem. It is good to have an adult who can provide support.
• Put an extra pair of absorbent underwear in your child’s school bag. Try to be as discreet as possible to avoid embarrassment from their peers.
• Don’t stop your child from attending summer camps or trips. Monitor the situation and use your best judgment. If you believe they can handle the situation, encourage them to participate in activities.